Tantrum throwing kids, like SEIU thugs or MSM opinion writers?
I’d get right down on the floor with them. “You call that a tantrum? That’s not a tantrum. THIS is a tantrum.”
They stop and stare at me.
My Mom always had a cure for a tantrum. She’d stop what she was doing and we’d leave. We knew if we did anything like that in a store that it would be a very long time before we were ever allowed to go again!
My parents instilled a level of terror in my sibling and I that if we EVER embarassed them in public, the wrath we would experience once we were out of The Public Eye was far greater than anything we could ever HOPE to achieve via a tantrum, LOL!
Roots and wings. It works. :)
Applying immediate, high quality pain to said child usually ends public tantrums quickly & forever.
1st time in public, she had to go to the bank the next business day and apologize to each and every teller for disrupting them. (it didn’t help they all gave her candy!)
Second one, my cup of ice water poured over her head and me walking away.
There has not been a third.
If they are not mine I can convince them I am going to kill them, works wonders - nonverbal.
Mine I did the out of the store bit. Only twice (1 each). i always told them my expectations on the way into the store.
Not only will it be long, but really hard to drive on, after hacking it up with their hoe.
My mother would completely ignore me and go about her business, pretending I was somebody else’s child.
Well, what I did was hold the child, whisper in their ear that they have to the count of zero to behave or they would get a spanking.
Not once did I ever have to spank them (well for tantrums anyway).
Duuugh... You spank them...
A pinch will work where a spanking won’t.
It's really simple. You grab the child by the arm, just enough to hurt a bit, pull them close enough to whisper in their ear "You will stop NOW."
I must note that this only works if you have used the opportunity of all the preceding years of their life to instill in them the appropriate amount of terror at the prospect of their imminent punishment.
We used to call all that prep work "parenting".
“If the parent succumbs to that sort of behaviour - even once – they’ll have a long road to hoe before the child will take them seriously again, Smith said.”
Who ever hoed a road? I think that you hoe a row, e.g., or vegetables.
You'd be amazed at how fast kids can come around.
I like the Bill Cosby approach, the one where he says, “You know, I brought you into this world, and I can take you out. And it doesn’t matter to me, because I can make another one that looks just like you...”
When he was not yet 2, we were downtown and headed out of a dept. store for lunch. He spotted a gum ball machine and wanted a BIG gumball. I said no and explained why.
He sat down and started screaming for it. I looked at him and said, “Well, I'm going to lunch, Do you want to come with me or are you going to stay here?”
He continued to scream. So I said, “Okay. Bye bye then,” and walked off - to where I could still see hm but he couldn't see me. In the meantime, two little old ladies had been watching - and one thought I was terrible to do that - while the other said I was handling it just right. They got into an argument over it, which scarred my son and he came running for mommy. That was the last ‘downtown tantrum”.
At home, there were a couple more ‘control’ attempts. If he didn't get his way, he'd literally bang his head on the floor so hard he'd get a bump on his forehead. I would totally ignore him and go about my business. After 2 or 3 of these episodes, he figured out the only one getting upset - and HURT - was him. End of that one.
Next one was holding his breath. He stood there turning red in the face, clenching his fists. I calmly walked to the sink, got a glass of cold water and calmly threw it in his face, turned away and went back to what I had been doing.
that was the last breath holding incident.
He was a challenge to raise! But he turned out just fine - and I always said God gave me the other 4 kids - who never resorted to such tantrums - as a reward for not committing infanticide - or tot-acide? ;o)
There has to be a fear factor. I loved my parents and they loved me but they placed in me a fear of what would happen if I crossed the line. It works. Kids who throw tantrums have no fear of their parents reactions.