“Of course not. That is very naive of you. The drunkenness, abuse and abandonment happen AFTER the marriage, not BEFORE.”
Ok. Women married drunken sots assuming they’d sober up after marriage. Please.
Please yourself !
My niece is living with a guy who hits her regularly, steals her money, orders her around, belittles her in front of her friends, is insanely jealous, ad nauseum.
She's left the jerk at least 8 times, but keeps coming back for more.
Tell me she doesn't believe she can change him !!
A good friend of mine married a woman from Austin, TX. When they met he carried an open fifth of Cruzan Clipper (120 proof) under the front seat of his Volvo P1800 and was well known as a party animal. He was the kind of fellow you'd much rather have on YOUR side in a fight.
Within two years she had changed him utterly. Pussy-whipped is the appropriate expression. If she was crossed, she'd make his life hell for weeks.
He had changed under constant assault.
Women REGULARLY expect men to change under their enlightened tutelage. Or drive them so nuts with constant criticism, carping and conniving that drinking is refuge.
The examples are legion.
I had to dump two to find a good one. She DOESN'T expect me to change. I'll die with all my bad habits.