This kind of hits home for me. I left my daughter’s mother over a year ago because she was abusive (to me and to daughter), vindictive, neurotic, and possibly mentally disturbed. Yes, she’s the biological parent of my child (and let me tell you now, the dynamics of abusive relationships are truly distorted, and it’s a shame there isn’t more focus on them both for abused women and abused men), but as a mother, caring, nurturing, role model, authority figure, and so many other facets, she fails miserably.
I have since remarried, and my current wife is everything to me and my daughter that my ex-wife never was and can never be. My wife plays with my daughter, loves her, and otherwise parents her. So, the answer to who is the true “mommy” and who is the mother is not so clear. It’s not just biology. It becomes a morality issue, at least with regard to the article. Certainly there is a drive in every woman to be a mother, and it’s obvious that the woman in the article is now seeing at least a part of the price she is paying for the delusional lifestyle she has chosen. I have no trouble with my lack of sympathy for her, but it did raise in my mind the question of my own daughter, who also has two mommies in a way.
There really isn’t a problem. It will be left to your daughter to honor your wife on Mother’s Day.