She likes women sexually. We get it. 'Tis OK, IMHO. To each their own.
Then they have to go out and build a whole new imaginary world around their fetish. ....Tis OK, IMHO, as well. It's their world and they're welcome to it.
HOWEVER - my problem happens when reality intrudes on their little made-up world and they have the temerity to complain about it.
If she doesn't like the lifestyle choices that she's made, then she needs to change them, or learn to live with her decisions....just like everyone else that lives in the real world does. Until then, she needs to STFU. IMHO.