With all due respect, it’s not the same thing if I knock up my girlfriend and she breaks up with me and doesn’t let me see my biological child than if I’ve been raising a child as mine since birth until he’s two years old and they take him away from me at that point.
Jewbacca, it takes many months for parents who have been raising a baby over whose custody they received from an adoption agency to actually be able to adopt that baby. Since the biological father did not know for certain that the baby had been born until his father saw a notice of termination of parental rights in the newspaper when the custodial parents were about to adopt the baby, and only then did the biological father have gone to court, the matter was certainly not “before the courts” since the child’s birth, but many months later. What do you suggest, that the parents who had been raising their child for months send the child to a foster home because the guy who knocked up the baby’s mother wants custody?
I know that the biological father got a raw deal from his girlfriend, but that’s what happens when you don’t wait until marriage to have a baby. The woman could have moved to Russia before giving birth or, even worse, had an abortion, and there was not a damn thing that the biological father could do to prevent it. I have no sympathy for the biological mother here, but my sympathy for the biological father does not extend so far as to take away a child from his parents.
I love my two daughters with all my heart, and I would not love them any less if it turned out that somehow I was not their biological father. The experience of raising them since birth, not mere biology, has created an unbreakable bond between us. I have close friends who are adoptive parents, and I know that the bond between them and their children are no different from mine. I know that fathers always get the shaft in custody fights, but taking a child from his adoptive parents is not the right way to right those wrongs.
OK, as posted above, if I steal your next child, give him or her to muslims and you don’t find your child for two years, the child should stay with the muslims because they are his parents?
Of course not.
I don’t know the timing, but the father has been seeking his child probably since 6 months in.
The adoptive parents are selfish, evil, -— yes, evil -— people for not doing the right thing 1 1/2 years ago.
The mother started this fight, but the adoptive parents continued it.
The people the child is living with are NOT his parents.
The mother is a parent (who doesn't want the child) and the father is a parent (who does want the child). A child belongs with his parents. In this case, with his father.
(I seem to have missed if it's a girl or a boy child. I hate using "It's" to refer to a child and yet "his or her" is so clumsy. From this point on I'll have to stay with classical English where the masculine includes the feminine case)