In Genesis 3, part of the curse was that the woman would always desire the man’s role and authority,
but the man would always rule over her.
Bear in mind, “rule over” was not the original arrangement, she was to be his voluntary helpmeet.
Yes, and when you have your roles in a marriage worked out, it works. But the husband has to be willing to lead. I think in a lot of marriages the husband is as unwilling to lead as the wife is to follow.