They’re despondent because they were told their whole lives that homosexuality is a sin and it’s morally wrong.
There must be some misunderstanding, as you wholeheartedly agree with me yet misstate my point. It is not that they have been “TOLD” that it is wrong, nor is it because it is not fully societally acceptable that they are depressed and despondent.
They feel guilty and despondent because their conscience is wired to KNOW that it is wrong, but their lustful self-centeredness tempts them to do the wrong thing anyway (as all of us do).
Rom 2:14-15
14 for when Gentiles, who do not have the law, by nature do the things in the law, these, although not having the law, are a law to themselves, 15 who show the work of the law written in their hearts, their conscience also bearing witness, and between themselves their thoughts accusing or else excusing them
We fundamentally agree, Mr. B. I believe that morality and ethics are taught, personally. If a child is raised in a home that espouses wife beating or drug abuse, that child will likely grow up to be a wife beater or a drug addict. My father was an alcoholic, and I saw that a lot as a child. I too am an alcoholic, but I’ve taken the steps to keep myself away from booze and other mind-altering substances. Aversion to alcohol was learned through experience and research, it was not ingrained.
More specifically to your point, however, I do agree that it is hardwired in us to search for the opposite sex as a way to propagate the species. I’m of the mindset that homosexuality is a learned behavior and a lifestyle choice not genetically coded in our DNA.