No WE are responsible. WE let it happen and it’s time to stand and say ENOUGH! I personally have always taken a stand within my own family. I am in charge, I have ALWAYS been in charge and my wife of over 40 yrs has no problems with that. We understand each other, the relative strengths and weaknesses of ourselves and the other. She never asks me to help her pick out drapes and wall paper and I never ask her to pick a stock, mutual fund or any other investment.
If people simply would stay within themselves, do what they do best and not try to be something they are not, things would work out for the best.
I have to ask. My Hubby of 40 years is very verbal about his likes and dislikes. If I pick something he doesn't like I hear "I'm not paying for that".