[exDemMom]

I am on the fence about this one. I just read an article about a woman who was murdered by her husband while she had a restraining order. On the other hand there are those who use the system against their spouse like this woman. I just don’t see an answer that is fair to both situations.

The problem there is that even though laws were in place to protect her, they weren't enforced, for whatever reason. (E.g. police responding to a violation of a restraining order is probably lower priority than responding to a break-in.) The laws need to be based in common sense. They need to be enforced. Seems to me those two measures would greatly increase the "fairness" of the system.

[marstegreg]

The problem there is that even though laws were in place to protect her, they weren’t enforced, for whatever reason. (E.g. police responding to a violation of a restraining order is probably lower priority than responding to a break-in.) The laws need to be based in common sense. They need to be enforced. Seems to me those two measures would greatly increase the “fairness” of the system.

You think that maybe they should have lie detector tests for both people or a psychological evaluation so they can decide exactly who is the victim?