Homosexuality is defined as sex between members of the same gender. That definition stands whether the people in question are promiscuous or committed, monogamous or polygamous, physically healthy or dying of AIDS, using condoms or using nothing. If homosexuality is synonymous with promiscuity, simply because the two are highly correlated in the real world, does that mean two men who ONLY have sex with each other are not homosexual?
My point is that, even though homosexuality and sexual promiscuity/carelessness issues coincide when we’re talking about the typical homosexual lifestyle, they’re actually two unique moral issues, and they ought to be addressed as such. From what all three of you have said, I think we all agree that homosexuality and promiscuity are both wrong, together and by themselves—it’s not okay to be homosexual just because you aren’t promiscuous, nor is it okay to be promiscuous just as long as you aren’t homosexual. So don’t you see the logical disconnect between the question “why is wrong for a man to have sex with another man?” and the answer “because most men who have sex with men are also sexually promiscuous”? That answer merely restates the fact that we’re dealing with men having sex with men and then adds that promiscuity is bad. That’s not a convincing argument, and that’s my beef with this article. IF homosexuality were wrong because and ONLY because of promiscuity, if you took away the promiscuity, then homosexuality would be a moral non-issue—in which case, instead of debating homosexuality, you should be debating promiscuity.
I think gays are only promiscuous because promiscuity is reinforced in the mainstream gay “culture.” They hate traditional sexual morality (because it contraindicates homosexuality) and think they need to depart as far from it as possible. Either that, or the inability to commit to one partner and the desire to take risks is a by-product of whatever condition made them homosexual. But it’s possible to be both gay and sexually “safe”—not that it makes the homosexuality acceptable in itself.