DADT is a game changer, we live in OFFICIALLY queer society now. This is UNBELIEVABLY HUGE. My son lives in a country where buggery has been elevated to CELEBRITY status. Trading these marginal rates for buggery? A fools play. They (R's) should have let everything slide until January. I WOULD HAVE GLADLY PAID MORE TAXES THAN TO SEE THE REPEAL OF DADT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!111
I think you greatly overstate any crossover impact the repeal of DA/DT might have in the civilian society. The gay agenda is actually much further along outside the military than within the military. I've never heard of anyone being kicked out of civilian society for telling that they are gay, or being required to remain silent about the fact.
And the military will be still be much more restrictive place for gays, and for heterosexuals for that matter. The great challenge on the civilian side is to find ways to prevent the courts from all sorts of rulings that a good majority of the people oppose. That's already been proven.