I have to disagree.
You are blaming American women for being responsible in their choices, instead of blaming a culture that enslaves women - where women have no other role but producing children. In Islamic cultures, women are sex-slaves that serve the sole purpose of bearing and raising children for their masters.
One society embraces freedom, responsibility and growth. The other culture embraces slavery, misery and hate.
On the other hand, to an alarming extent American women's sexual/family relations have not been characterized by, as you say, "freedom, responsibility and growth." It's a pervasive pattern of youthful junk-sex, debased personal relations with morally puny, terminally-immature, non-provident males, epidemic fertility-destroying STD's, the expected mangled bloody baby or two in the teen and 20's years, non-marriage, non-family-formation, leading to a stunted, well-below-replacement fertility rate by perimenopause.
Also hardly a pattern to emulate.
Worse than the simple infertility is the out-of-wedlock childbearing. Some 45 years ago Daniel Patrick Moynihan noted the "pathology of the Negro family" in which out-of-wedlock childbearing was, among Black people, a shocking one out OF five. Now it's, FOR WHITES, 1:5, FOR HISPANICS 2:5, FOR BLACKS 2:3.
A society that spends 38 years killing 50 million babies and lacks the generosity, vision and vigor to form families, real families, has only one thing to say:
Buh-bye.