The Commonlaw definition of "sodomy," as well as the codified definition of sodomy in many states, includes oral sex between a man and woman. I don't consider that to be deviant.
Perhaps I should have used the word "buggery".
In any event, if said man and woman in your example were to make said sexual act their "identity", and based on that "identity", attempt to change valuable American Institutions such as marriage, the traditional family, the military, education, religion, and youth mentor groups, I'd be concerned.
But we really can't compare an act between a husband and wife with that of homosexuality.
I should have said "I can't"; moral relativist Libertarians such as yourself will "attempt to" every time.
Homosexuality IS deviant.
Lord, I hope that’s not ‘deviant.’