As you state it, we are in agreement regarding the point of condemnation.
Where we differ, I guess, is that I accept that there are people who find themselves emotionally drawn to others of the same sex, and in that attraction find themselves pulled into your definition of homosexuality.
Is being emotionally attracted to a person of the same sex, in the absence of the act, not homosexuality? From your point of view, it is not, and therefore not a sin.
So we agree in the main. Even in the presence of the attraction, if it is channelled into appropriate expressions, it is not a sin.
So does God and He calls it sin. Sexual attraction, as designed by God, is between a man and a woman. Anything else is outside Gods plan and not from Him.