When my son wrestled varsity, there were a couple of girls that wanted to be on the team. The first few weeks of conditioning convinced them to be stat girls instead. I don’t know if the coach was trying to discourage the girls (wink, wink), but we had a pretty good team that year!
From the sound of it, this girl is a pretty good wrestler. You don’t make it to the state finals in Iowa on a cakewalk. If she’s good enough to compete with the boys — which she obviously is — then she can win (or lose) fair and square.
I’ll leave it to individual conscience to determine the implications of girls wrestling at all, not as an issue of ability but one of social propriety. Personally, I believe social roles, while occasionally arbitrary and confining, do have value, and one violates them at one’s peril.