What on earth are you trying to say? I’ll try to answer though.
There is nothing wrong and everything right with what those verses say.
Whether she wants you to love her as SHE loves herself, IF you are a Christian, the word says to love her as yourself. Her wishes are moot. It wasn’t taught because it isn’t correct.
I am somewhat confused by the last paragraph
Please don't faint! I agree. Me too. Ditto. ;-)