That's wrong, too. Once children leave the home and get married, they are no longer under their parents' authority. At this point, grandparents trying to do what you're talking about here just become annoying, bothersome, unscriptural busybodies.
But at the same time, when you are in the relationship it is often hard to see the danger signs.
I have had a few friends tell me “Don’t be stupid” when I was dating. Glad they did. In the end, it is each person’s choice, but outside opinions are often a good thing.
Oops - my sense of humor failed to appear to some!
While it’s true I did say to the daughters and sons-in-law that I would be picking their son’s wives, it was because I was insinuating there would be no ‘perfect’ female for our grandsons, of course, therefore I would need to do the choosing because I would be older and wiser than they!
After having 4 daughters and no sons, these 5 grandsons-in-a-row was hilarious, and very precious! (The 6th came afer some granddaughters).
Therefore, I was moved to make the humorous declaration, and I intended to sound ‘bossy!’
I’ll be happy to be alive when they start marrying - the oldest is 23 - - - I would like to dance at their weddings. : )
As an aside, we have never lived near OUR families (USA states separating) after marriage. Can only wonder how that would have gone. Looking back, we kind of robbed some of them of their bonding with our kids....
But 3 of our daughters live near us.
We in no way intrude, but/and do babysitting for the youngest g-kids. And do holidays, etc. together. We’re all rather civil!