I am sorry. From your moniker though, it appears that you are determined to reject such selfishness. Good for you, and may God bless you.
I have 4 - two bio, 2 adopted.
I was raised in a foster home. It provided empathy for others with even lessor options. My two adopted kids lived in orphanages in China.
Ever child deserves, and wants, a Mom and Dad and a home.
Even when they’re my age.