My brother was heavy.
He lost weight a couple of times with dieting.
Gained it all back plus a few pounds.
He was on his third diet when he dropped over dead at 66.
In his diets he would lose his strength and look terrible.
I miss him-—Badly.
When John Candy died of a heart attack, he had just lost 40 pounds on a diet.
So sorry about your brother.
I did “diets” too for a lot of years. Lost weight, gained weight, lost weight, gained weight. The standard “diet” tries to starve you into losing weight. You might lose weight temporarily, but without a permanent change in your eating habits, you won’t keep the weight off permanently.
Today, I don’t deprive myself anymore. I eat just about anything I want. The key is moderation and portion control. For example, I can still eat pasta — I just can’t eat the whole one pound box in one sitting. (Yes, I used to cook a whole box of spaghetti and eat it all at one time.)
Unfortunately, many of us don’t learn how to eat properly and get exercise until it’s too late. It nearly was too late for me. It took a cardiac arrest to wake me up. It’s too bad that a lot of commercial time on tv and other media is spent on fad diets, pills, potions and the like, and so little is devoted to eating right and getting moving.
So sorry about your brother. - I’ve been thin and I’ve been chubby. In this “society”, it seems that one can never be “thin” enough; and we’re brow-beaten by families, the government, and the advertising agencies to “lose weight” if we’re chubby. I’m doing the best I can; and I’m tired of the “we’re just nagging you for your own good” speeches.
It seems that back in the days when food was hard to come by, it was FASHIONABLE to be porky (Renaissance women). When only the wealthy could afford rich food, skinny poor people were looked down on for being skinny, and poor. - Now that most everyone can afford rich, fattening foods, we’re not allowed to enjoy it in peace. I’m fed up with it.
A friend’s daughter wants to get gastric bypass surgery. Well, I’ve known three people, friends and family, who have had that surgery. One got an esophageal infection, a paralyzed digestive tract, lay in the hospital for 8 weeks; and almost died. Lost some weight, but said there was no way in the world she would have done it if she’d known what she would go through. She is 68. A friend had surgery done years ago. More were necessitated to try to correct what the original operation had caused in her body. She ended up fatter than ever and sick to boot. - Another was a cousin who had the surgery. The last time I saw him, he had lost weight; but looked like death warmed over in the face. He was also copping a cocky attitude, stating, “It’s amazing what a little surgery can do!” I haven’t heard anything from him in the past few years; so don’t know what evolved.
I’m sick of it; I’m doing the best I can. - I finally decided that even if my husband (who often blasted me for being “overweight” - and it’s funny HE was always “overweight” himself by about 40 or 50 lbs.). Well, I finally decided that even if he had been married to Cindy Crawford; he would have focused on the mole under her nose and that was all he would have seen after the first six months. Now, I have a level of PEACE about it.