—The system literally dangles a big fat windfall payout in front of every married woman. 24 hours a day - the offer is there. Just pick up the phone and make that call. And you can get rid of your husband, legally, for once and for all - and still get him to pay you as much as he can possibly afford every month. If you’d like, you can torture and tease him with the kids, but you don’t have to.—
Those right there are the most important words in this thread. It is why my animosity doesn’t go to the women divorcing their “regular guy” husbands at record numbers, but the system that LITERALLY motivates them to. When it comes to the woman, the state plays the part of “homewrecker” as much as the husband stealing “other woman” does with the man. Sure, responsibility lies with the husband and the wife in each situation, but still...
I will say this for the state. They are a homewrecking machine that likes to keep it strictly business: I payed my ex via payments to the state. I know of some guys who paid the ex directly and were forced to pay again when they could not prove they made the payments.
In MN, you have to pay via The State (so they get their cut)
if kid(s) are involved (even if mom/kids are NOT getting State assistance)
It’s the perfect way to grow The State and shrink the family.
This is the way it is the last time I was “in the system”...not too many years ago.