—Now, add to that, the husband will be forced to pay her money until her last child is over 18 - by payroll deduction—
Haha! That’s funny. You forgot to add college tuition into their 20’s.
That’s right. If you are married to the mother, the two of you can come to agreement (or not) and you can choose whether or not your child is college material, deserves it, etc. It’s your choice.
But if you are divorced, you don’t have the choice. She can take you to court and the court can REQUIRE you to pay for the child’s school AND continue paying child support to your ex for many years past 18.
Like I said before, if she is vindictive, your best option is to leave the country. No joke.
In which state? In my state support ends at age 18 or upon the last day of high school, but never past 19 1/2.