Sometimes you can afford a child and then life happens and then you can’t afford them. Sometimes you can afford a home, a car, a computer, etc and life happens and you can no longer afford them.
I hope you never find yourself in such circumstances.
“Sometimes you can afford a child and then life happens and then you can’t afford them”
With a little maturity, this is avoidable. Young people do NOT use their head and will wait and save for NOTHING.
I could afford (according to the bank) a MUCH better home than the one I bought. I would be homeless right now if I was an immature and selfish fool who wanted more than I could afford.
Then you planned poorly. How many american live right on the edge with every penny of their pay going to maintain their lifestyle? total-us-savings-rate-lowest-in-recorded-history WAY too many.
—I hope you never find yourself in such circumstances.—
I used to look at divorced people as second class citizens. Then it happened to me, without cause. She just didn’t like me any more. Fortunately my kids were old enough that I paid child support for only a few years - and maintenance since we had been married a couple of decades.
And I found out that somewere around 75% to 80% of divorces are brought on by the wife. And yes, the men basically get screwed in a way that only family court can do it.
It is extremely foolish for a young man in the US to marry a woman in the current legal environment. I’m sure she’s a real sweet girl, but people change. And these days it can ruin your life - for the REST of your life. This is especially true if you have single digit aged kids. I’ve seen WAY too much of it.
And we’re not talking wife beaters here. We’re talking ordinary flawed men married to flawed women, but the power these flawed women are given by the courts is absolutely criminal. It is also creating a permanent underclass of what should be a strong middle class and part of what is actually destroying our country.