It’s called self denial. It is real hard for a parent to admit that they have a child that is not normal whether they have contributed to the problem or not. I have a friend who is a Special Ed teacher (there has to be a special place in heaven for these people) and she deals with it all the time. She tells heart wrenching stories of parents, mostly mothers, who talk to her about what college would be the best one for her child to apply to when they are 16 y/o with the mental capacity of a 4 y/o. When she tries to guide them in more reasonable direction they just go off on her.
“She tells heart wrenching stories of parents, mostly mothers, who talk to her about what college would be the best one for her child to apply to when they are 16 y/o with the mental capacity of a 4 y/o.”
That truly is heartbreaking. They won’t consider what will truly help the child but are only indulging in their fantasies. There is no shame in having a special-needs child; the shame is in not behaving in a way that will serve the child’s best interests. These kids must pick up on the vibe that they are falling short of the parents’ (unrealistic) dreams.