Posted on 10/22/2011 4:28:52 AM PDT by Kaslin
By letting the families they lovingly raised, and their churches they faithfully attended—do it, while getting rid of the government socialism that robs their ability to care for themselves in the first place.
I don't understand what you mean by "trapped."
The fact that the writer expects someone else to pay for, and care for, his/her ailing mother tells you what that means...Having worked in the healthdare field, I am familiar with these types of children. It’s part of the communist plan to make everyone part of the welfare states. Separate parents from their children by indoctrinating people to believe children are a burden, then when they grow up, reinforce to children that their parent’s aren’t worthy of their time or money. There’s nothing new about this, once upon a time it was referred to as Corban.
We don’t care for the elderly.We warehouse them in some of the most expensive nursing homes around.They are poorly managed from what I have seen and the patients usually get substandard care.
People that can’t fend for are not even fed usually since there is not enough staffing or the staff is busy doing things that have nothing to do with patient care.
The supervision of those same people is attrocious.I only hope that should I get to that point in my life I’m not left to die of starvation in a nursing home.
I don’t get that from the article at all. Ms. Chavez is simply stating that a solution must be found.
She is a moderate-to-conservative commentator, not a friggin’ communist!
“And she’ll need someone with her 24 hours a day.”
My wife and I have taken care of my mother, who has very advanced Alzheimer’s, for the past eight and one half years. She has outlived all of the early predictions of her death by almost five years now, is bed ridden, and cannot communicate except by her wonderful smile and the occasional pat on the hand of the person feeding her.
Five years ago, we took advantage of a “respite” program that the local hospice offered and put mother in a nursing home for four days while we took a very short, belated “honeymoon”. When we came back, Mom had been starved almost to death. After that, we made the decision together that she would be with us and we with her, no matter her condition, until she died.
In most cases, our parents put their love for their children ahead of their own personal wants and desires for many years. Why should they not be honored by us in their decline by knowing that we are going to be there for them as they walk their last mile?
I find this incomprehensible. My own mother disliked her mother-in-law intensely, and had the means to put my grandmother in a lavish setting with a legion of nurses; but my grandmother wanted to be with family when she started to fail. She lived with us five years, and NO nurses -- my mother did it all herself, and got over her disaffection in the process.
That's all of one experience, however. But how did people take care of their elderly up until recently? And why do they call it a family if they don't provide for their own? The more government becomes "humane," the less individuals retain that quality. We are seeing the natural bonds loosen.
Your post made me cry, Big Harry. The love, compassion, sympathy and kindness that you are showing your Mother is amazing and admirable. You are a wonderful son and your wife is an angel.
God love ya, Big_Harry!
“your wife is an angel.”
You certainly have that part right! :)
With how long people are living, you have 70+ year old “children” trying to take care of 90+ year old parents.
I acknowledge that there are a fair number of 70+ year old people who are hale and hearty, but many are not. They would not have the physical strength and stamina to render round the clock care to a 90+ year old parent.
You could do down a generation or two and try to tap the 50+ year old grandchildren or the 30+ year old great-grandchildren. But they have their own set of responsibilities (full time jobs and rearing children) and precious few extended families live in proximity to each other.
I fully understand Chavez’ points but have no idea what the solution is.
**Ms. Chavez is simply stating that a solution must be found**.
She is advocating that Government must find a solution.
Clearly she has the resources to hire a qualified live-in caregiver and I wonder why she hasn’t considered it.
The fact that life expectancy has been extended by superior health care from birth to middle age - has not prepared families for the inevitable decline for the aged over 70.
When families consisted of parents, several children, aunts uncles, cousins - family members rotated the care of their elderly patriarchs & matriarchs (Japanese still do). It is a cultural thing - and we have lost that culture.
Thanks Lady Lucky,
My wife and I have been blessed beyond measure by having mother in our house. We have seen professionals quit their jobs to take care of their own parents because of the testimony that God has given to us through our care for Mom. We have “converted” several liberal nurses to the conservative cause, witnessed to many others the love of Christ, (well, my wife has! She says that I speak the truth and she supplies the love... ...and the spiritual band-aids).
Agreed, which is exactly why I said:
“while getting rid of the government socialism that robs their ability to care for themselves in the first place.”
What evidence that was presented in the article leads you to that conclusion? I couldn't find any.
When families consisted of parents, several children, aunts uncles, cousins - family members rotated the care of their elderly patriarchs & matriarchs (Japanese still do). It is a cultural thing - and we have lost that culture.
My family hasn't.
Good points and question.
There are some private companies that provide qualified, nursing/daily care for the home-bound, frail elderly.
It is probably quite expensive - but a better alternative than warehousing parents in nursing homes.
For elderly parents who have several adult, working children - they could pool their resources and rotate living arrangements. Workable- if they ‘plan ahead’.
Linda Chavez could afford it.
This comment leads me to believe that she has not.
***I would gladly take my mother back into my home, but I don’t think it’s feasible for her to continue to live there. If we can manage to get her down those same steep stairs and into the house again, she’ll be trapped there indefinitely, unable to go to the doctor, grocery or anywhere else except to the hospital if she falls and injures herself again. And she’ll need someone with her 24 hours a day.***
You are blessed to have a wonderful family that still holds to the tradition of caring. (Please adopt me;)
I know a liberal, whose mom is failing at a fairly early age (72). He is researching who he can pawn her off on....I suggested maybe he should take her in, under his roof. You’d think I had shot the pope, with the look he gave me. That option is, apparently, outrageous.
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