My mother was an ogre my entire life, abused me throughout my xhildhood, and became even more vicious and unpleasant when elderly. I could not stand her. Yet when she became infirm and bedridden, I couldn’t put her into one of those places - I didn’t hate her enough. I kept her at home with two health aides. During those three years I saw so much fraud and waste from the system. It’s just an empty billing system to steal your money.
You overcame what I believe is one of the worst handicaps anyone can possibly be born with: an abusive mother. You are remarkably blessed, kabumpo!