Devils advocate questions.
So what happens to all those unused embryos? Is it murder when someone doesn't use them. Is it OK to leave a life frozen for months or years?
If life begins at conception than IVF is evil and probably results in almost as many murders as abortion. I'm not sure on the the issue but that is the only consistent stance.
The embryos are definitely created in a state of mortal danger. The danger is entered into by intentional acts, whether or not the parents or lab personnel understand (or “believe”).
If the child is begun for his or her own sake, as a means to an end in and of him/herself, and nurtured and cared for with respect as any other child, then there can be an argument for using the doctrine of unintended consequences or double effect.
But the standard would be high.
At the least, the doctors, parents and techs are guilty of manslaughter, just as you would be if someone died after a car crash when you choose to drive after a couple of drinks or skipping your car inspection, knowing your brakes don’t always work.