To the people in the North it was a “Civil War.”
To the politicians and media in the South it was the “War for Southern Independence.”
To the people in the South who did the killing and the dying and their families it was the “War against Northern Agression.”
The women of the South carried the hate for years and were very unforgiving. My grandmother’s middle name was Lee, she was born 1902, her grandfather had served in the Army of Virginia.
My grandmother’s middle name was also “Lee”.
She was born in 1900.
Her grandfather:
3/4/1862-enlisted-49th Regiment, Ga. Volunteer Inf., Army of Northern VA., Company A;
8/9/1862-Wounded at Cedar Run, Virginia-amputated right thumb;
7/3/1863-Wounded at Gettysburg, Pennsylvania-in artillery barrage;
4/3/1865-Captured in hospital at Richmond, Virginia;
4/31/1865-Prisoner Of War in Richmond, Virginia;
6/25/1865-Released at Newport News, Virginia.
My wife still feels this way today and has never crossed the Mason-Dixon line.