Correct, college is not for socializing and screwing around, and I do NOT go to parties or drink or sh!t like that. I work and don't have the time to mess around, even if I wished to engage in such activities, which I don't.
Your final point, that the professor is the boss, is conpletely incorrect. The professors would not have friggin job if I didn't go and pay for them to expound on whatever it is they're supposedly experts on. I am paying for a service -- I am a customer, not child who needs to be told when I can or can't go to the bathroom. And the professors are not "bosses." Their job is to lecture, and if the people in the cheap seats don't want to listen, that is not the professor's problem. As a responsible person (I can't vouch for most students, but I am a responsible person), it rubs me the wrong way to have professors take punative actions in the way that many of them do, for them to assume that I am an irrsponsible person who is incapable of completing the tasks put to me without some sort of threat that goes along with it.
Things have changed markedly over my lifetime:
As a 6th grader, I read at college level.
I incurred zero student debt. My bachelor's degree was funded through an ROTC scholarship, my master's via the GI bill.
I made mistakes with my two oldest children, by cutting them too much slack. My daughter graduated from college last year, and is off to a fine start in her career.
My 10 YO son is bound and determined to go to UT Austin. I remind him often that he'll have to finish in the top 10% of his class to matriculate there.
My oldest son? He was never scholastically inclined, but he is working nearly full time. He's held a grudge that we never footed a 4 year college for him, but he never showed the necessary aptitude and fortitude. We paid for a few semesters of community college, but that "investment" was actually an "expense".