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Posted on 02/25/2012 8:52:11 PM PST by Ultra Sonic 007
This is a polemic: Access to birth control isnt really about my health. Its not principally about the management of ovarian cysts or the regulation of periods.
Birth control isnt about my health unless by health you mean, my capacity to get it on, to have a happy, joyous sex life that involves an actual male partner. The point of birth control is to have sex thats recreational and non-procreative. Its to permit women to exercise their desires without the sword of Damocles of unwanted pregnancy hanging gloomily over their heads.
This proposition is radical only by default, because mainstream liberal voices in Congress, especially, have euphemized womens desires out of the current birth control and abortion disputes.
I understand why theyve done this, in terms of narrow political expediency. Weve been on the defensive about reproductive rights and women's sexual liberty for decades. Weve used a euphemism of choice for years.
The problem with choice is that it pairs the philosophically monumental with the rhetorically puny. On the one hand, choice describes the abortion cause that weve taken thousands of political casualties to defend; on the other hand, it describes 20 brands of toothpaste.
Rhetorically, liberals have also argued from the exceptional cases to defend reproductive rights, sensing a more sympathetic ear when they do. For example, assaults on abortion rights are often combatted with the anecdote of the tragic but less common abortion-seeker: victims of incest, rape, or life-threatening medical danger.
These three subjects form a hallowed trinity of morally unimpeachable abortion users, because they became pregnant or need an abortion through no fault of their own: In other words, through no exercise of their libido, or their desire.
It should go without saying that these women matter in the abortion debate. But the more we argue by way of non-consensual examples, the more we communicate that were embarrassed by the larger population of unexceptional, consensual examples of women who get pregnant or use birth control because they want to have sex.
The phrase womens health in the birth control dispute is the latest nimble euphemism.
There are many examples. Barbara Boxer frames the birth control issue a la mode as about defending womens health. We will fight for women and their families and their economic well-being and their good health, her website declares on the matter. EMILYs List refers to the war on womens health.
The New York Times (a reliable source for yuppie prudery and subtle anti-feminism alikeremember their atrocious coverage of the gang rape of an 11-year old in Brownsville, Texas?), used the outlier example of a lesbian college student who only took the pill because she had an ovarian cystnot to have sex, you can be reassured!and she couldnt afford it without health insurance, so she ended up with a ruptured cyst, and a costly hospital stay.
We tiptoe around the heterosexual womans unsightly libido, and end up with a strangely euphemistic rhetoric, a defense of birth control that seems to involve no sex, desire, sperm, or men. It's all about access, womens health, and the non-libidinal reasons to use birth control.
This might secure sympathy in the short run, but when we euphemize, we convey a squeamish, ambivalent view of our own values. When we rely on exceptional cases, we embolden no-exceptions extremism. We give up on defending the promiscuous abortion seeker, but cling to the trinity of Non-Consenting Cases. Then, bit by bit, social conservatives, sensing opportunity, start chipping away at the exceptions, too.
Now, if the Oklahoma personhood bill becomes lawand 12 other states are considering similar legislationabortion will be absolutely outlawed, along with many forms of birth control.
Its counterintuitive, but when deeply-settled rights are most in danger, its not the time to euphemize, or retreat from assertions of sexual liberty and self-governance. Its time to gun it instead.
So heres the subject I advocate for, because no one dares to speak her name: Its the 20-something unmarried heterosexual woman who wants to have sex, has sex, enjoys a good sex life with her boyfriend, and, in that sex life, uses birth control. Or, she accidentally gets pregnant.
She doesnt get pregnant because shes a victim of non-consensual sex. She gets pregnant while enjoying sex. She doesnt use birth control to regulate her menstrual cycle. She uses birth control because she has sex.
I advocate for the slut who sleeps with lots of men, as well as the woman who sleeps with only one, ever. Promiscuously heterosexual, and happy about it? Ive got your back.
A second polemic: If birth control isnt actually about womens health, its also not strictly speaking just about women, or a womens issue. Again, this is a basic but mysteriously obscure truth of the issue. The rhetoric emphasizes womens health, rather than the desire-driven world where it takes two to tango, one from each biological sex, and to get pregnant or need to plan to avoid pregnancy. So we end up focusing on women's equality in health insurance coverage. Thats a critical issue, certainly.
But when we start talking about birth control as being, well, about sex, it becomes clear that its an issue for men and women.
Dont men have some right to have sex without the fear that every relationship will come with the game-changing threat of unwanted pregnancy?
Are men destined to go back to the contraceptive roulette days of condoms, rhythm method, luck, or nothing? And, how many men would want that life back? How isnt this a mens issue and a womens issueor a men and women, together, issue? Without access to affordable, reliable, convenient birth control, heterosexual mens and womens sex lives are effectively rolled back to the pre-Griswald 1930s.
Birth control doesnt come across as a mens and womens issue because acknowledging that would be to declare the idea that we want people to have recreational, non-procreative sex lives as part of their humanity, their intimate life, and their human experience.
The days of second-wave feminism when Erika Jong gleefully celebrated womens sex lives feel like another world. Im looking at my collection of second-wave feminist paperbacks on my shelf. I could throw a pen and any book Id hit would have some affirmation of a pro-sex agenda for womenan article about the myth of vaginal orgasms, for example, or the importance of the vibrator as a tool of liberation. Second-wave feminism wasnt just fighting against sexual violence. It was fighting for the emancipation of the female libido.
Where would you find that attitude today in the cultural mainstream?
In glossy womens magazines, its true, youll find ways to please your man features, and at least these magazines are writing about sex, but I dont really see theirs as a feminist treatment of sexuality. They might want to run more features on ways to please yourself to boost their feminist bona fides.
In the world of public health, youll see erudite discussion of sex as a social morbidity and risk factorto wit, girls who have sex are much less likely to get admitted to a top tier schoolbut thats not exactly a triumphant narrative of womens libido, either.
You can go to slasher flicks and get the Hollywood Have Sex and Die narrative, or, in more self-declared feminist flicks such as Thelma and Louise or the The Piano, the slight variation of rebel, have sex, and be forced to kill yourself, or lose a finger for your trouble.
It makes me wonder, who stole my libido?
Even though personal liberty in private relations is a foundational concept of modern liberalism and its understanding of the right to privacy, sexual liberty isnt exactly the rallying cry.
And thats unfortunate, and consequential. Because it seems to me that the bottom line of 21st-century politics is that you cant be embarrassed or equivocal about the things you believe. It always shows.
Moral absolutes ping.
Music to little Rickie’s ears. Does little Ricki and his wife use birth control? You’d expect they’ve already had 20 kids instead of 7. Do you have ‘sex’ control instead of contraception.
“The point of birth control is to have sex thats recreational and non-procreative.”
This places an incredible burden on women; social constraints for good behavior on the part of males are hereby removed.
You going to pay for it?
You see that is the point and why they trot out the sob stories, it is because we are not interested in paying for your fun.
I don't know how you were taught about it sweetie but the entire feminist movement came from the idea that women were not children and should be treated as adults. You want to sleep with the entire Seventh Fleet? Have at it but don't say I must pay for it. Don't come to me with your hand out expecting me to pay for your contraception, your abortions and your raging STDs. You are an adult. Pay your own way like an actual adult would do.
Most men at for some period in their life live without these social constraints and have sex as often as they can with as many attractive partners as they can. So are you telling me that these social restraints will be more badly damaged by women who act in the same manner than the men who practice these same activities?
A truly brilliant campaign strategy.
This is a social issue, not a health care debate.
Not even Liberals.
Nobody is talking about access to birth control. Its forcing everyone else to pay for it thats the issue. $9 a month at Wal-Mart is some onerous burden all of a sudden?
Remember the caricature of the cave man dragging home a woman by her hair? If you were to “level the playing field”, say with a few nuclear detonations, this would become a fair representation of the actuality of sexual relations. It is largely male behavior that is socially constrained, and that by other males, of course.
I bet these women that don’t have the $9 for birth control have iPhones, cable TV and other frivolous expenses.
Here we arrive at solidarity of Biblical piety with Godless materialism.
Yes, that’s it. Liberalism is all about hedonism. And forcing their godless libertinism and communism on everyone else.
They probably have food stamps also.
What separates us from “the beasts of the field” is our ability . . .
to think things through
before we do
One might make such an observation from any vantage point. It does seem to me, though, that the idea of lust being the “Creator’s way” of ensuring reproduction is Biblically problematical. Certainly it is not spoken of directly. The gist is that Adam and Eve presumably partook of this lust innocently, much as animals, and it was only with their rebellion that they came to know what a dirty deed it was.
Well, the whole subject is fraught with problems from any point of view, and we might suppose that the Biblical account is an expression of this. We might even suppose that that is its genius.
Please note: Samuel Colt, not Samantha Colt.
But a gun is not always handy. Remember that scene in Cape Fear when Gregory Peck’s wife tried to face down Robert Mitchum with a poker, and he just stood there until she dissolved in tears and dropped it on the floor ... ?
... that was great.
No woman ever became pregnant all on her own; abortion never has been and never will be a “women’s issue”.
Don’t many birth control devices and pharmaceuticals increase health risks? And they want us to pay to increase health problems in others?
“Here we arrive at solidarity of Biblical piety with Godless materialism”
Unless the married lovers had the Song of Solomon as their guide. The marriage bed is undefiled, according to the Bible.
I had a kid come in the store to buy some condoms, and he was complaining about how expensive they were. I told him, "Honey, the alternative is much, much worse."
As I have posted here repeatedly, access to free female birth control as a political issue is about fornication and nothing else, and, since the American voter is in love with fornication and thinks about it (and pornography) all the time, the fear of losing it becomes a powerful weapon in the hands of the Democrats.
The whole point of Leftism is that someone else has to pay ... for everything.
Yes - at reduced risk of "The sword of damocles" in the form of unwanted pregnancy - or as stated, carefree, recreational sex. Why should we pay for someone else's "recreation"? If you want to play, take your own dang precautions and/or ensure your partner does. It's another case of not taking personal responsibility.
I don’t think anyone in the history of humanity has sincerely uttered the phrase: “Darn, I can’t afford to have sex.”
The "choice" for all is before sex, whether to have it or not, period.
I told my sons that if you decide to have sex before marriage just remember there is a big chance that if the girl gets pregnant and has the baby, you will be forever intertwined with that woman, for the rest of your life you will have to talk to, see and deal with the mother of your child.
$9 a month today??
It cost me closer to $20 a month 35 years ago, when I was making about $8 an hour.
Today, women spend more on a cell phone than they do on their own health.
They have drawn into an upside down world.
They want to chatter incessantly to whomever about NOTHING, then they want me, their employer, to pay for their no consequences sex life.
“As I have posted here repeatedly, access to free female birth control as a political issue is about fornication and nothing else”
Jim, Loretta Lynn beat you to it, and decades ago:
All these years I`ve stayed at home while you had all your fun
And every year that`s gone by another baby`s come
There`s gonna be some changes made right here on Nursery Hill
You`ve set this chicken your last time `cause now I`ve got the pill
This old maternity dress I`ve got is going in the garbage
The clothes I`m wearing from now on won`t take up so much yardage
Miniskirts hotpants and a few little fancy frills
Yeah I`m making up for all those years since I`ve got the pill
I`m tired of all your crowing how you and your hens play
While holding a couple in my arms another`s on the way
This chicken`s done tore up her nest and I`m ready to make a deal
And you can`t afford to turn it down `cause you know I`ve got the pill
This incubator is overused because you`ve kept it filled
The feeling good comes easy now since I`ve got the pill
It`s getting dark it`s roosting time tonight`s too good to be real
Aw but Daddy don`t you worry none `cause Mama`s got the pill
Oh Daddy don`t you worry none `cause Mama`s got the pill
Ain’t nothin’ no one’s gonna do about this no’ more.
Like it or not, the concept of “contraceptive freedom” seems dear to women, not only liberal ones, but a sizable cohort of “conservative” women, as well.
Arguing about contraception is a losing issue for conservatives. Even if it portends the end of civilization, it’s -still- a loser.
Best course of action is to just change the subject....
Wrong. What needs to be done is to give fathers a veto over the abortion death of their child.
And give fathers the right to raise - not visit - their own children regardless of marital status.
Men do go around having sex as much if not more than women but we have no control in the outcome of these encounters.
What planet are you from??? Have you never heard of a condom???? Or just saying no because you do not want to take the risk of paying child support for the next 18 years?
People in here preach individual responsibility but I guess it does not apply to men when their pants are down.
Men bear the majority of the financial cost of raising children, whether married or divorced.
It is women who get out of responsibility: they either kill the child between conception and birth or if the child is born the man winds up paying the financial costs to raise the child.
Bringing a child into this world takes two people. Both usually do so willingly. At the point of conception biology makes things different for the man and the woman. Different questions and answers with different consequences. Everything is not equal because the burden of pregnancy and parenthood is not equal between men and women. You will never be able to define that perfectly equal place with the biological situation being so unequal. That is why the laws will never be straight up equal.
Yes I know a few mothers who have had to pay child support and they needed to.
Having custody of one’s own children is a good thing, not a burden.
I did not say it was a burden, I said it was the hardest job that I have ever done. I have built and sold two successful business, I’m a retired AB ranger, but I am most proud of being a successful and effective father.
Great. And more fathers should have the opportunity to raise their own children instead of being treated as ATMs.
calling pro drug enforcement positions a "war on medicine".
Way too many get mad at the court system and choose to move on start another family and leave the past behind them. I am a firm believer that men need to make their children a priority in their lives even if they do not have custody. That means don’t run out and try to replace them.
True. Also true that the system needs to be radically changed so it is no longer actively working against fathers.
Cigarettes and beer.
Wow - sore spot? Men are just as responsible as women when it comes to preventing pregnancies - I don't think we should pay for either sex. If both fail to take precautions, then let them live with the "mistake" and pay for it too. How does that make me sexist and/or irresponsible? It sounds to me like you have a more sexist chip on your shoulder than I.