Since all your statements, save the last, are simply conclusions, I have nothing to answer. Rather than name-calling, try explaining your severe judgments.
As far as “confusion” goes, I suppose Burke was also confused when (it is supposed) he said “All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing.” The forgiveness in this story is worse than doing nothing. Still confused?
As far as a Divine basis goes, I’m surprised that your Grace couldn’t think of the fate of the Egyptians as a ready example, but perhaps the Passover story did not occur to you. My only pretension is to believe in the Book of Exodus.
..with forgiveness.
I believe we are called to defend ourselves...
...the ten Booms did all they could to defend themselves against the enemy, the Nazis...
...they were part of the underground smuggling Jewish children, adults out of the country...
..as well as hiding them in their own homes.
They fought back against the system.
But their Christian upbringing stood ground in the end...
..it wasn't easy....Corrie especially struggled with her anger....but her kindly, soft hearted sister challenged her to remember her Lord and Savior.
He too was beaten, spat upon, disgraced, humiliated...put to death.
..and on the Cross....Forgave.
She did forgive......She didn't...and couldn't do it in her own power...
..but God have her the power to forgive.