[trailhkr1]

well all the men gotta do is Have a job Stay zipped up and faithful be drug and alcohol free don’t hit It ain’t that big a challenge. So how come so many can’t perform?

It ain't that simple. You left out the woman's faults and have only listed men's "faults". Marriage is a two way street.

A guy I work out with has been married 20 years. His wife never had a high libidio and she literally stopped having sex with him 5 years ago. He is in his late 40's. He has tried everything to get her to be more affectionate to no avail. He is a great guy, keeps in shape, great provider etc but he is screwed, well not literally.

I am single in my mid 20's though I am in a long term relationship. No wonder I have no fascination on getting married at this point.

[yldstrk]

yeah well that is according to him. Have you asked her for her side of the story?

[Larry Lucido]

Your friend in his 40s should pack his bags. He won’t be halfway out the door when her libido will suddenly come rushing back. Take it from me.

[Harmless Teddy Bear]

He should see if she will get a endocrine work up. If your hormones are out of balance it carries over into everything.

[caww]

she literally stopped having sex with him 5 years ago. He is in his late 40's.

She's already left the marriage then. Once you can no longer come together physically it's simply a matter of time before one or other says it's done. She's saying it's done, but wants him to be the one to call it.

[fini]

Yeah, something like almost happened at in our marriage. Menopause went roaring through the house. My wife and I had some serious discussions. We worked it out, but I had some "none negotiable" clauses and I had to show her that I was very close to moving out of the house before she realized that: I did have options and we both love each other.