You and INVAR really come across as a couple of self-stroking anarchists. I really think both of you need some counseling. Reality is a Mistress not to be ignored.
Reality is somebody in town telling you that your daughter can either marry...
...(a) somebody who will abort your grandkids
...Or (b) somebody who will abort your grandkids while also giving some of them to "research"
And, then, you, thinking "reality" is what you've been told, wind up publicly endorsing "choice B".
Now, it's true...Perhaps, your daughter would have married choice (a) or choice (b), anyway...Maybe, you thought you were just making the best of a situation in which you invited a mistress into your life who was advising you to tell your daughter to avoid choice (a) at all costs...and you knew Choice C wouldn't work out til four years down the line...
But hey...what you forgot is there's no guarantee that choice (b) would result in a real "marriage," anyway...after all, a six-month "marriage of convenience" that ends in a divorce to a loser wasn't a marriage worth endorsing, anyway, right?
So...beyond that...is endorsing such a grandkid-aborting character what you want to be known for reputationally (as well as ultimate accountability before God)?