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As with most "gay issues," I'm hesitant to say same-sex adoption absolutely should or absolutely shouldn't be legal. I don't have religious or any other serious moral problems with homosexuality, nor do I buy gay activists' notion that homosexuality is just heterosexuality with a different gender makeup. I see it as an error in the system--not morally evil, necessarily, but not biologically "correct."

As I understand it (or fail to understand it), the research on same-sex parenting has been used as a toilet by too many political movements for it to say anything coherent, so this is just my personal, nonscientific take. I have no doubt gay men can be good fathers and gay women can be good mothers--and there are plenty of kids out there who would be infinitely better off being raised by a decent same-sex couple than by their current scums of heterosexual parents--but the best gay parent on Earth can't be the missing mother or father.

Even my knee-jerk-liberal childhood psych professor had to admit that, although she supports same-sex adoption, research seems to favor the idea that children fare best when raised by a mother and father. Yes, pretty much every family falls short of "ideal" in some way or another, and failure to be impossibly perfect shouldn't keep couples from adopting kids, but it is beyond me why any couple would adopt a child knowing the best they can provide is half of what the child needs. (Yes, to any idiots who want to label me a "homophobe," I ask the same thing of straight singles who want to adopt.)

It's sad how the meaning of "mother" and "father" is being lost to our culture. They aren't empty, made-up, abstract concepts; they aren't manufactured "cultural roles;" they aren't something some ignorant, sexist ruling class devised and imposed on the rest of society. Go to any civilization in any era, and you'll find reverence for mothers and fathers and the special, innate characteristics and purposes of each. That mothers and fathers are real people playing naturally individual, naturally interlocking roles is one of few things we can call a universal human truth.

there is an element of affirmation that you are ok even if you are homosexual if the court approves you as an adoptive parent.

The thing I wonder is what goes through that poor child’s mind when they realize who they have ended up with as parents. (This happens with all children, not just those of homosexuals, they see the limitations of their parents.)

Of course if the child has a sound foundation and relationship with God, the child will have the tools to endure the depraved circumstance until the child can get to the point of safety. However,if not taught about God, getting the relationship with God might be a real challenge.