After my wife died, several people recommended I ‘talk to someone’. For those who take that route, that’s their business and I would not say a word against them. But I do not understand, when I look at ‘many’ of the people who seek therapists, what good results. I mostly see people ‘hooked’ on therapy and never solving their problem. All they do is part with cash and adopt the mindset of the (often liberal) therapist.
For thousands of years, people dealt with their problems alone, with family or a friend priest/pastor. Only in more modern times have ‘therapists’ existed. And profited.
That said, any 2X YO needing a therapist just to live day to day is beyond ridiculous. it’s attention seeking.
Nothing more.
But I do not understand, when I look at ‘many’ of the people who seek therapists, what good results. I mostly see people ‘hooked’ on therapy and never solving their problem. All they do is part with cash and adopt the mindset of the (often liberal) therapist.
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The first objective of any therapy session is to set the appointment up for the next therapy session.
We used to call stuff like this “A Self Licking Ice Cream Cone”
I saw a therapist for about a year and a half after my father died. I couldn’t go to family because THEY were part of the problem, and it’s difficult to approach and deal with your problems on your own when you’ve grown up in a home environment that paralleled North Korea in some regards—i.e. you have no grasp of what’s “normal”.
My therapist was of a “tough love” bent—she didn’t want to hear the same crap over and over again, and she pushed me to face and deal with my problems. It helped in some areas more than others, but it definitely did help me.
Some people spend more time in it than others, but some people have deeper problems, and you have to WANT to fix yourself. I think the latter is a key problem of people who lean on a therapist for years without any progress...they want somebody to magically fix them without any effort on their part, not somebody who will enable them to fix themselves. (And yes, there are plenty of unscrupulous therapists who regard patients as income streams.)