“You can not be held in sin for the desire to do something. That is in fact the definition of temptation. It is the action on that temptation that creates sin.”
So I can covet my neighbors wife and ignore that commandment now? As long as I don’t actually act out on it, I can desire her as much as I want?
No, the act of “coveting” is to agree to seriously entertain the temptation.
If you see a pretty girl you may momentarily have a lustful thought. Sure, with prayer and discipline we can learn to avoid such thoughts.
But they happen. It is our nature. Men look at women with lust. Those tempted to envy, look at what others have and want it. Those tempted to overeat, desire food when they see it. Those tempted to alcohol have cravings.
In the same way, those who may have homosexual tendencies may be tempted.
It is when we entertain the thoughts of the things that tempt us, when we linger on the temptation that we sin.
/So I can covet my neighbors wife and ignore that commandment now? As long as I don’t actually act out on it, I can desire her as much as I want?/
I don’t know about that, but I do know you will be allot less likely to get a shotgun blast to the face if you do not act on it!