I am so glad that we were able to take turns caring for our mother so that we did not have to put her in a place like that. Also, I hope that I never get put into one.
Mother used to say to us, “If you put me in a nursing home, I’ll come back and haunt you”. She started saying that when she was only in her 50s. Maybe I should start saying that to my (adult) kids.
That’s how my family is. We’re very large (10 siblings, not counting extended family) and we don’t do nursing homes. Same with my husband’s family. Every member who has passed was with family until the end, unless it was a hospital situation (ie heart attack).
Oh, and if a member is in the hospital, we take turns to make sure a family member is with them round-the-clock if they are in a vulnerable situation.