I have had a CHL for 17 years. I have carried almost every day. In 17 years I have never pulled or flashed my handgun. I have had no reason to.
Your opinion is one highly shared by liberals. Specifically that those who carry think they are Rambo, etc.
You should stick to speaking for yourself and not project your failings onto others.
Some people think CCW is only useful in the “perfect” scenario. Those are the people who have a license but never carry. I ignore them and carry anyway.