Skip to comments.Son of 'two moms' defends Regnerus study on same-sex parenting
Posted on 08/13/2012 2:05:22 PM PDT by NYer
.- A professor raised by two women has defended sociologist Mark Regnerus, who is under investigation for academic “misconduct” following an activist's complaint about his work on same-sex parenting.
“The children of same-sex couples have a tough road ahead of them – I know, because I have been there,” wrote Robert Oscar Lopez, who teaches English at California State University--Northridge, in his Aug. 6 Public Discourse essay “Growing Up With Two Moms: The Untold Children’s View.”
The essay was published by the Witherspoon Institute, which was involved in funding the Regnerus study. In it, Lopez describes his “very difficult” upbringing, and thanks Regnerus for highlighting the experiences of others like himself.
Published in the Social Science Research journal, Regnerus' June 2012 findings showed that adult children of same-sex households tend to have lower incomes, more physical and mental problems, less stable relationships and higher crime rates.
Blogger Scott Rose, who advocates homosexual “marriage” on the New Civil Rights Movement site, wrote a complaint to Regnerus' university which resulted in the professor being investigated for alleged scholarly “misconduct.”
Lopez, a married man with a complex personal history, said in his essay that Regnerus is under attack for highlighting “what the gay activist movement has sought laboriously to erase, or at least ignore.”
“Whether homosexuality is chosen or inbred, whether gay marriage gets legalized or not, being strange is hard,” wrote Lopez, who identifies as bisexual “because it would take several novels to explain how I ended up 'straight' after almost thirty years as a gay man.”
“When your home life is so drastically different from everyone around you, in a fundamental way striking at basic physical relations, you grow up weird,” the California State University professor reflected.
“I have no mental health disorders or biological conditions. I just grew up in a house so unusual that I was destined to exist as a social outcast.”
The effect of such an upbringing “takes a mental toll, makes it harder to find friends, interferes with professional growth, and sometimes leads one down a sodden path to self-medication in the form of alcoholism, drugs, gambling, antisocial behavior, and irresponsible sex,” he attested.
Raised by his mother and her “female romantic partner” between 1973 and 1990, Lopez was his mother's youngest child and the only member of the family whose childhood did not include his father.
“In other words, I was the only child who experienced life under 'gay parenting' as that term is understood today,” he noted.
Lopez expressed love for his mother, but said that “growing up with gay parents was very difficult, and not because of prejudice from neighbors.” He had “no male figure at all to follow,” while his mother and her partner “were both unlike traditional fathers or traditional mothers.”
“As a result, I had very few recognizable social cues to offer potential male or female friends, since I was neither confident nor sensitive to others,” he observed. “Thus I befriended people rarely and alienated others easily.”
The English professor pointed out that most adults who identify as homosexuals had the advantage of being “reared in a traditional home.” Lopez, lacking traditional role models of either sex, “suffered because of it, in ways that are difficult for sociologists to index.”
Lopez came to identify as bisexual in college, before dropping out of school and becoming involved “in with what can only be called the gay underworld. Terrible things happened to me there,” he said.
Later, he was surprised to become romantically involved with a woman. He married and became a father, choosing to “put aside my own homosexual past” and vowing “never to divorce my wife or take up with another person, male or female, before I died.”
“I chose that commitment in order to protect my children from dealing with harmful drama, even as they grow up to be adults,” he wrote. “When you are a parent, ethical questions revolve around your children and you put away your self-interest – forever.”
Lopez did not participate in Regnerus' study on the children of same-sex couples, but began corresponding with him after the work was published. In his essay, he thanked the sociologist for highlighting life experiences he believes some homosexual activists might prefer to overlook.
Part of the controversy surrounding the Regnerus study stems from its funding by the Witherspoon Institute, known for its social conservatism. Lopez also describes himself as a conservative, and anticipated activists' response to his defense of the University of Texas at Austin professor.
“Many have dismissed my story with four simple words: 'But you are conservative.' Yes, I am. How did I get that way? I moved to the right wing because I lived in precisely the kind of anti-normative, marginalized, and oppressed identity environment that the left celebrates,” he wrote.
“I am a bisexual Latino intellectual, raised by a lesbian, who experienced poverty in the Bronx as a young adult. I’m perceptive enough to notice that liberal social policies don’t actually help people in those conditions. Especially damning is the liberal attitude that we shouldn’t be judgmental about sex.”
“So yes, I am conservative and support Regnerus’s findings,” Lopez wrote. “Or is it that Regnerus’s findings revisit the things that made me conservative in the first place?”
Fascinating insight and perspective.
His lips to Gods ears. It should be to EVERYONE'S ears.
Jus needed a li'l fixin'.
Lopez is screwed up but what ‘s worse here is the homofascist attack on freedom by some blogger with a stick up his ass and the University going along with him, or her or it.
I’m going to say a prayer for him.
He is very brave to speak about his life.
Yep——Laws of Nature——it is where “reality” of human nature comes from which results in Logic and Reason (Common Sense)-—and it is essential for normal emotional growth for young children to experience home life with both a loving mother and father.
Any other “artificial” “family” will warp their “reality” forever. It is why orphanages were known to be evil places for children, although better than on the street. The Natural Family is crucial for the future intimacy with the opposite sex-—and normal sexual development.
That is why homosexuals want the children-—they want to create homosexuals-—recruit-—like they did in all societies freely before Christian Ethics forbade it. Sexual immorality will destroy all cultures and by teaching and normalizing this perversion in the schools which is currently being promoted by DOE-—children will be corrupted and ruin their lives and happiness. Easy marks for the One World Government-—that is why the Communists backed the movement in America-—to destroy her.
When your home life is so drastically different from everyone around you, in a fundamental way striking at basic physical relations, you grow up weird,
Indications here that this guy really doesn’t yet understand his own revulsion to “strangeness”.
Contrast that with Elton John, who is so horrified at how terrible his current son has it, without a mother, that he is thinking about getting another child, so the two can commiserate together about how bad they have it.
The fundamental difference between this guy and everyone on the other side, is that he actually cares about trying to give all children every opportunity, and protect them from unhappy/disadvantageous circumstances.
All the others on the other side are just about themselves, and seeing others tell them they are right. They are not human, in any sense of the word.
We will need to remember that.
God bless this guy.
poor guy, what a start in life. just cruel.
I hope he finds happiness.
He tells it like it is. He has been there, and he knows the details of the life, and not just some romantic dream cooked up by theorists.
But do such truths reach the deaf ears of gay panderers and advocates?
Something that used to be called maturity. Making and keeping covenants is a sign of maturity.
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The best testimony against homo-marriage and homo-adoption I've ever read. He's been there and done that and knows exactly why two mentally ill sex perverts should never be raising children or be allowed to "marry" each other.
Pinging Bill O’Rielly, who, while we still had TV was pushing adoptions by ‘gay’ parents.
That’s so evil I still find it hard to believe, and this man has proven it by relating what it was like having to live through it.
O.R. Hannity and their ilk are surrounded by homosexuals, the cocktail parties they go to and are invited to are full of homosexuals so either they are cowards on this issue, they are supporting their pals or they simply do not want to offend their pals .
What ever it is I’m in the view they’re all cowards .
will Hannity, OR. etc put him on their program?
Nah did ‘t think so just like the view, today show and all the other idiots out there.
Facts and experience are so hard to grasp for them/
Basic common sense tells one that having and seeing two fo the same sex play families will hurt a child and yet they cannot understand that
There’s a Canadian woman who tells a similar story of her years growing up.
What selfish people the parents are, how painful for their children.
These liberals do not think about the children they are saddling with this arrangement. A child cannot grow up in that environment and not be affected greatly. Everyone knows this but those who want homosexuality normalized, turn a blind eye to what it is doing to the children.
Conservatives will listen until they find the exact same issues apply to single female parent households. That's when the browning of the noses begins.
I was raised by a single mother, in a matriarchal, extended family. So now when I criticize female chauvinism, it's because I'm a misogynist: not because I know what women are like when they don't have to answer to anybody.
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The amazing thing is: has anyone expected anything good to come out of homosexual parenting?
Right. I thought so. So why the statement of the kind “winters are cold and summers are warm” sounds like a breakthrough discovery?
Because courage has become rare, that’s why.
And this study was only with female same sex “parents”. I wonder if the findings would differ with children raised by two men. Probably a bit worse even, I would think, but it would be interesting to know.
Here's what we know for sure - a hundred percent: CBS will NEVER REPORT THIS STUDY/
I think the tide will turn back to reality. The more in-your-face homo agenda pushers are, the more people see exactly what the “gay life” does to participants and the victim children, the more the tide will turn.
Single parenthood, whether male or female, creates its own slew of problems. There can be no doubt that a traditional, committed, moral, heterosexual union has the best odds of producing great children. That’s not to say that other arrangements don’t have a chance, but the more one moves away from God’s plan, the more likely things go wrong.
At some point in one’s life, one realizes that one can continue to try to live as one wants and hopefully mitigate all the complications, or one can make peace with the Lord. Living apart from God tends to create grief. A few people occasionally beat the odds, but an immoral life apart from God definitely stacks the odds against a healthy, happy life.
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