Sounds like father, mother and son are lamenting getting caught more than they are willing to acknowledge what junior did that night.
If a sense of right and wrong were not instilled in the young man by his parents certainly after two years in ROTC he should have known that he was in the wrong place at the wrong time with the wrong “friends” engaged in an illegal and destructive activity.
Whether he knew this and persisted or was ignorant of the expectations of a future officer makes no difference. He does not deserve either the ROTC scholarship or the honor of a commission.
Agreed. If he wants redemption, let him enlist, work his way up through the ranks and through outstanding performance, earn the right to reapply for officer training.