Adultery: Is it the grown-up way to love?

Ottawa Citizen ^ | September 2, 2012 | Kate Spicer

[yefragetuwrabrumuy]

Things are a lot more complex than that, or else men with high IQs would have women crawling all over them. Different women have different biological responses and different opinions about what is sexually attractive in potential mates. And often the two are in conflict.

Instead, “superior DNA” is very subtle. In some cases, women take cues from other women as to who the most desirable males are. Some are totally oriented to the wealth of potential mates. Some physical attractiveness and physique.

Importantly, while it *almost* seems random, it is anything but random. Science knows there are patterns, but has a very hard time figuring them out.

[Valpal1]

The first of these is the dowry, that girl’s families do not select mates for their DNA and prosperity, but to enrich her family, not the couple and their children.

This is a nonsense statement. A dowry is provided by the bride's family and a girl with a substantial dowry would have her pick of spouses, not be married off to an old man. Depending on the culture, the dowry may indeed go to the couple and be the bride's personal property and not enrich the groom's family.

It is cultures where brides must be purchased that young girls end up with old men. This is frequently seen in polygynous societies because older, wealthier men with multiple wives create a scarcity of women in the marriage market and drive up the average cost of a bride.

[trebb]

They cheapen themselves by calling prostitutes “role models” then wonder why they rank with Rodney Dangerfield in the respect areana - go figure.

[yefragetuwrabrumuy]

One of the most vicious examples of dowry today is in India, with the practice of bride burning. Because women sold by dowry become members of her husband’s family, and there is a strong prejudice against remarriage for women, but not men, as soon as the groom’s family gets the dowry, one of them pours gasoline on the bride and sets her on fire.

Then their son can get remarried, and get another dowry.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bride_burning

[wardaddy]

Odd article from an Arab named wench

I think moneyed whites cheat much less today than in my youth

Many reasons

Money

Divorce favors women in their class

Men are more submissive

Folks who marry are motivated to marry

It all contributes to less cheating amongst married whites

Poor people do not marry as much now as my youth

I agree completely with her remark on fembots

[Moltke]

the Internet enables women to enjoy what she calls harmless “playfairs” — beneficial “holidays” from a marriage.

It's also a great way to meet psychopathic serial killers. Wooo! the thrill of rolling the dice!

[Spok]

I am sick to death of a culture that lies to people and constantly denigrates character and self discipline. Everything has a simple shortcut that requires no self-restraint: pills that replace exercise and controlling diet; giving in to destructive impulses that destroy relationships and lives; killing the unborn out of convenience, and smug, convoluted thinking that indulges the dark side of human nature.

The evil that permeates today’s elitist thinking makes the best and most compelling argument for the existence of satan, which has led me on a personal journey from agnosticism to a deep, abiding faith in God.

[cdcdawg]

My own observations lead me to the conclusion that the desired “superior DNA” is a combination of looks/physical traits and intelligence. Cultural influences as to what constitutes “desirable” are significant, but 7s marry 7s and 3s marry 3s, for the most part, be it in looks or smarts.

All of that has little to do with the long term. Compatibility is also needed for long term success, and that is where I think culture has an even bigger influence. Women are conditioned to think that they are entitled to it all, regardless of their own worthiness. “it all” doesn’t exist in the real world. Western women have been poisoned by feminism. Every signal given by popular culture is that the husband/father is a buffoon, while the wife is a snarky/clever (but far superior) hen. The meme is that your balding, pasty, wimpy husband isn’t worthy of you; and it doesn’t matter if you are an overweight, nagging bag of neuroses, it’s all on him. It’s pure poison, eagerly consumed on a daily basis.

The bright side is that Helen Gurley Brown died last month.

[Valpal1]

Which is why India made dowry illegal in 1961. It's the non-enforcement that has made custom continue.

If the Indian government got as serious about punishing bride burning as the British government had about Sati, it wouldn't be a problem.

"This burning of widows is your custom; prepare the funeral pile. But my nation has also a custom. When men burn women alive we hang them, and confiscate all their property. -- General Charles Napier

[Secret Agent Man]

Her definition of a “successful affair while married” is 100% fiction - one with no negative consequences. That is freaking impossible.

She’s just blown her own ship out of the water.