“Alone, single, older without kids, most often divorced, and lonely — that’s mostly what I see as I work with and encouter a lot of older women — and they ain’t all that happy, from what I can tell.”
The causes that many women support politically are often the reasons why no guy in his right mind would marry them. Guys don’t want somebody who will butcher a baby in the womb, rob him of his future earnings for decades if the marriage doesn’t work, and have some strange guy living in his former house with his children. There is simply little reason for a guy today to legally expose himself to marriage or fatherhood. I’ve been married over 15 years, with kids, but the wife isn’t American or “progressive” - she’s old-school.
The causes that many women support politically are often the reasons why no guy in his right mind would marry them. Guys don’t want somebody who will butcher a baby in the womb, rob him of his future earnings for decades if the marriage doesn’t work, and have some strange guy living in his former house with his children. There is simply little reason for a guy today to legally expose himself to marriage or fatherhood. I’ve been married over 15 years, with kids, but the wife isn’t American or “progressive” - she’s old-school.
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Hmm. Never looked at it either from this perspective. I guess some women just aren’t a great investment, are they? Emotionally or financially.
I don’t get it as we have a very traditional marriage. But, within that, I find PLENTY of ways to advance myself, my education, my career ..and I don’t have to sacrifice ANYTHING. It’s just mutual respect between my husband and I that drives it ....I don’t understand why women feel they need to separate themselves from men and/or their children to have what they want. If anything, you end up with SO much MORE.
I don’t know. I guess I just married a good guy, maybe.
One thing i’ve seen many couples do is instantly start out with separate checkbooks and bank accounts. Just another way to stay separate and not combine your lives. My husband and I have ALWAYS made it “both” of ours ...there is no line drawn. Whatever the other does, benefits us both. It’s a true partnership.
People need to reconsider their ideas about marriage — I think it would be the ONE thing that would fix our society’s social ills.