I am so sorry to hear about your rough patch right now, Tax-chick. A commitment to your family and staying together is probably half the battle. You stay strong and prayers for you and your family. Sometimes the rough patches are what makes us stronger. We work through them, survive them and realize we are more committed to each other and love each other than the day of our wedding. (plus, you and I both know we are too old and tired to train new ones!)
Love is work. You love your baby, it’s work. You love your 8-year-old, your 15-year-old (Oh, my God, Tom ...), it’s work. You love your spouse, it’s work. Except for the times when it’s easy ;-).
We’ll get there. I think we have more going for us than my parents did, and they’re over 50 years now.