[Technocrat]

Sometimes yes, sometimes no. But at least I would have the guts to not whine how a third party was forcing me to not work for free. The fact is, we don’t have enough money to give grandma four hip replacements and I am not going to pay for it out of my own pocket either. But I am not going to hide behind this ridiculous rhetoric about death panels, I am going to have the guts to stand up and say, to my own parents if needed, that you don’t get to try to live forever and pay for it with my money.

[MamaTexan]

Fair enough. I appreciate your honest response.

[sport]

You must be a sorry,cold,hard, callous, miserable individual. When my mother died, I would have given averything and everything I had or could borrow, including my life if I could have extended her stay on this earth. It does not take guts to say what you said you would say to them. It only takes a cold, callous individual.

I actually feel sorry for you.Hopefully, when it is your time to meet your Maker, you can take solace in your money.

[reformedliberal]

“How sharper than a serpent’s tooth................”

Hip replacements mean extended quality lifespan. Some folks need them at 45. How very principled of you to condemn your own parents to a limited lifespan w/disability to ensure that however long they do live, they are miserable.

I hope your children take the lesson to heart.

Your post reminds me of the recent experience of friends. They took full responsibility of aged parents, who were demented and in care. After the deaths, the sibs who did nothing groused about how expensive the nursing home had been and how it had diminished their inheritance and stated our friends should not have allowed the parents to spend their own assets for their own care.