I repeat this sort of post every year, but when it comes to holidays - and proms/dances - EVERYTHING should be taken off school grounds and no involvement with the school should be sought or even permitted.
A community/volunteer board should communicate with students/parents - EXCEPT known malcontents such as atheists, idiot parents who are convinced that their daughter (who has yet to complete puberty) is a lifelong lesbian, etc.
Keeping the school out of things will drive the control freak administrators and teachers nuts but again that’s icing on the cake.
Exclusion that is bulletproof i.e. no legal recourse for their gripes is the best revenge. You want special treatment? Go in the backyard and whistle for it. We’re going to watch a religious play with our classmates and friends. Your heathen punk kid can stay home with his miserable parent (singular used intentionally).
-— EVERYTHING should be taken off school grounds -—
Especially the children.
But there’s that free babysitting thing.