My wife pretty much organizes Christmas. We seem to have dropped the annual stocking-stuffing, and we’ve cut way back on presents. We have about 20 or 30 of our family over on Christmas Eve and Christmas day. She asked our grownup kids to bring wine and stuff with them when they come, because we can’t afford to buy all the food and drink. The New York contingent brought food goodies up with them, too.
One of our son-in-laws raised and killed the turkey.
My wife and I pretty much give each other stuff that we need and would buy anyway, so there isn’t really much extra spending. She replaced a couple of pairs of pants that I had worn out, and I got her a bunch of jams and jellies, olive oil, tea, and stuff like that, which she would buy if I didn’t.
The smaller grandchildren still get a lot of toys and books, but not as much as they used to.
Sounds like a very sensible family to me.