Home school.
End the insanity of “diagnosing” normal, negative childhood behavior as “syndromes” and “disorders.” Tantrums, selfishness and other infant, toddler and childhood behavior is INNATE! It is the PARENTS job to train them away from this sort of thing. Empathy is NOT something instinctive. It needs to be TAUGHT and ENHANCED.
Stop prescribing MEDS for such natural, negative behavior and instead provide, exercise, fresh air, chores around the home sans allowance (children need to feel they are contributing to the family) wholesome, home cooked meals, limit junk/fast food with chemicals and additives and most of all bring back DISCIPLINE!
Train children that there are CONSEQUENCES for actions both good and bad. Stop shielding and enabling children; stop suing the teacher for giving your child a bad grade.
Don’t take your child’s word for it. It’s quite possible that Junior’s homework is NOT done. LYING is a natural, innate attempt at self preservation and escaping consequences of our actions.
Your little Johnny or Suzy is NOT as innocent as the wind driven snow. Lying starts almost as soon as speech develops. It’s your job as a parent to SEE THROUGH your children’s shenanigans, not go into denial or get angry at other adults who point it out!
I know all of the above flies in the face of the government agencies set up to eliminate the father’s disciplinary role, equating all correction with “abuse” and all those psychobabble professions that are making BILLIONS off of the modern day “free ranging you child” movement (and it’s sad results) which is a great disservice to today’s youth and tomorrow’s adults.