I lived in a house for over 15 years without a dishwasher and I can’t say I missed not having one, even when hosting big family meals like Thanksgiving or Christmas for 20+ people. I learned that cleaning up as you go makes for a clean and efficient kitchen. Although in the townhouse I bought afterward, I bought and installed a new dishwasher to replace the one that stopped working shortly after I moved in; a very quiet, very high efficiency model with an extra deep tub for large pots and pans and a food grinder, the dishes and even the grimiest pot and pans came out completely clean and it had a programmable delay so I could load it and set it to run late at night while I was sleeping. That was a nice machine and I wouldn’t hesitate to get another like it if I ever buy another house.
But I now live in an apartment and the dishwasher totally sucks. For one thing, it is extremely loud, so loud, I can hear it all the way downstairs in the vestibule, so loud that I hesitate to run it after 8 or 9 PM as my neighbors downstairs have a little baby. And it does a lousy job. I’m often re-washing glasses or spending as much time pre-washing and pre-scrubbing so that I just might as well wash by hand, which is what I do most often, even as I have so little counter space and had to get a small collapsible dish drainer.