Probably not. Indonesians, as a general rule, don’t spank children. I bet the adopted dad ignored Barry. Nope, what got him sent away was being molested, my hypothesis, by the homosexual caretaker. Most gays were molested while growing up, but think it is love because they are neglected by their natural caretakers, i.e. mom and dad.
The Balinese turn their chillun' into sociopaths for the purpose of getting them to dance the old forms. There's a lot of even worse stuff around that end of the world.
Hope you and yours had a great Christmas and prayers up for a great New Year.