Well, I think it is sad that you view this European model as so civilized. Yes, we Americans have been so silly with our sexual mores, but, don’t worry, that trend has shifter greatly so that now the tramps outnumber the decent women.
You refer to the young woman in the European arrangement as a “young lady”. Such a trollop is a woman, but she is no lady.
You refer to the young woman in the European arrangement as a “young lady”. Such a trollop is a woman, but she is no lady.
There is history here.
Until very recently, many marriages were arranged by families for men and women who may or may not even known each other, much less cared for each other in order to cement business or social ties with bonds of blood.
On the other hand, the mortality rate for men was astronomical due to wars, disease and dangerous work.
In many cases, a man's mistress was a woman with children who was widowed when her husband was killed in battle or some accident and who had very few options.
The wife from the arranged marriage was the female head of the household and stayed that way, and kept the strategic relationship intact. She probably also had a few male friends on the side as well.
Not judging good bad or otherwise, just making a comment on how different cultures do things a bit different.
It's irrelevant to me.
My wife comes from a third, equally time honored Scotts/Irish back round tradition where if she catches me indulging either of the above options she would cut my n*** with a dull rusty blade, shoot me in the knee caps, watch me bleed to death, have me cremated and then flush my ashes down the toilet.