no, some people through no fault of their own attract monsters. You are part of the problem with your pathetic “I’ve always advocated holding women responsible for getting into relationships with violent men” FU FU FU
You should read Dr. Laura’s book on the ten mistakes men do to mess up their lives. Women like this fit under the category, Distressed Damsel.
It is unfortunate when a woman marries an abusive husband, but have you noticed how these woman tend to get into relationships with abusive men, time, and time again? There’s a reason for that.
The unfortunate women, who was killed by the Blade Runner, actually seek unstable men like bees get attracted to flowers because the unstable men have strong reactions, which makes the women feel like these men care.
When they marry normal, stable men who have mature reactions to situations, the unstable women tend to have difficulty equating that stable and mature reaction as an act of love. These are the women that you hear about, who were fortunate enough to marry nice guys, that run away from the marriage with some guy on a motorcycle to go do Mardi Gras or something. They cannot handle a normal and mature relationship.
All you end up doing, when your focus is on the abusive men, is saving the woman from one monster to watch her get into another relationship with another monster. There is no saving her, when your focus is on the monster and not her.
You can tell me all you want to, “FU FU FU”, but that just means that you lack adequate understanding of the dynamic of many abusive relationships.
Without changing the woman, you will spend an inordinate amount of time and energy saving her from the monsters that she seeks out. If you can change the woman, and have her reach a clear understanding that it’s not the monstrous men that is the real problem here, you will save her from herself.
That’s what I’m interested in.